with our steamy sex tips from Men's Health's Siski Green
It's good to talk
Especially when you're ‘down there'. The vibrations from your voice and the unpredictability of it will make her come even quicker, so you won't get tongue-tied.
Don't go too far
You may think it's all about depth, but US sex gurus Master and Johnson stress that the outer third of the vagina is the most sensitive. Try holding your penis and ‘dipping' it in and out of the entrance to her vagina. This is a great way to delay ejaculation if you want to, and playing in the shallows means a satisfied customer who'll come again and again.
Use the cottons cycle
"The washing machine is the biggest vibrator in the house," says sex therapist Phillip Hodson, author of How to Make Love to a Woman (Chrysalis-Robson). "It shakes up the whole pelvis rather than just tickling the fringe." The cottons cycle gives the longest, fastest spin and is hot enough to keep your bum warm. Remember though, it's you who should sit on it, not your partner - that way the vibrations are carried through your penis.
Good vibrations
Take turns with the TongueJoy Oral Vibrator (www.lovehoney.co.uk). It's a tiny vibrator - about the size of a small piece of chewing gum - that either of you can strap to your tongue. The vibrations stimulate nerve-endings you never knew you had.
Read her bedtime stories
Pick your favourite bits from this article and email them to her, ask her what she thinks. It's a subtle but effective way to kick-start frank discussion about your fantasies.
Make the earth move...
...on a rocking chair. "Adding something unpredictable, like the rocking motion, is always sex. It's as though it adds a fourth dimension to the experience," says sex therapist Louanne Cole Weston.
Stick with it
Women orgasm through consistent rhythmical stimulation so once she's enjoying a particular move, don't change what you're doing. If she suddenly freezes in a position, holding her hips up while tensing her abs to stay as she is, it means only one thing – you're getting it spot on.
If you continue as you were, keeping the pace and pressure steady, she'll begin to feel fantastic waves of pleasure emanating from her clitoris to all over her body. This will have the effect of making her whole body shake and shudder uncontrollably, but don't stop now. Keep going until the shuddering slows and her body becomes limp. Her face will have a flushed look of total bliss, and you'll most likely have a big smile on yours.
Scale new heights
With you on your back and her on top, introduce her to your Eiffel Tower, her back arched and leaning back at 45 degrees so she can support her weight on the palms of her hands. Use shallow upward thrusts to stimulate the ultra-sensitive front wall of her vagina. This position also provides you easy access to her clitoris as well as giving her control over speed and depth.
Siski Green is online editor of www.menshealth.co.uk and author of How to Blow Her Mind in Bed (Piatkus, £9.99), out in autumn
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